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What is Sex Therapy

What is Sex Therapy?

Psychosexual therapy or sex therapy is counselling specifically for those who are having sexual difficulties. Sex can be a difficult subject to talk about, and unfortunately within our culture talking about sexual problems with our family and friends can be taboo (although we are often tempting to let people know when things are going really well). This can often make us feel very isolated and lonely, however, sex therapists are trained counsellors who understand how difficult this can be.


I believe people are capable of making great changes but sometimes a bit of help is needed, and being able to talk openly about what is troubling you is the best place to start. Often people find sex therapy extremely refreshing and a huge relief, as it gives an opportunity to talk about things that we feel we must keep secret. To feel that you are being heard and seen by someone who understands how difficult sex and relationships can be is extremely powerful and brings about great healing. My style of therapy is to work with whatever will suit you best.


Sometimes it is important to look at childhood, especially for those who are experiencing sex and porn addiction, or it might be that we concentrate on the here and now if the presenting problem is erectile dysfunction brought on by recent stress. Whatever your circumstances, you will always be met with honesty, compassion and a desire to help you work through your sexual or relationship difficulties.

Why Look at Sexual Difficulties?

Where are you in your life right now? You may be divorced, widowed, recently engaged, recently become a parent, or at the beginning of a new and exciting relationship. You may have not been in a relationship for a long while. Your life may be satisfying or pretty difficult.


All of us, where ever we are in life, have an emotional need for closeness, intimacy, relationship and sexual gratification. You may be reading this and thinking “I don’t need a man/woman to make me happy” and whilst I would agree no other person can make you happy, humans need connection. Whilst for most of us, our emotional needs are more important that sexual gratification, sometimes sexual difficulties, such as loss of desire or difficulty in having an orgasm can disrupt that emotional connection we are wanting to experience with others (or sometimes in the case or orgasm, with ourselves).


Some of us, especially women, struggle with the idea of having sex just for pleasure and to show and feel love. Some of us also struggle with the idea of masturbation and deny ourselves the gift of orgasm, or are left with a sense of guilt if we have masturbated. Masturbation and orgasm are a wonderful way of connecting with your body (which belongs only to you), can relieve stress and even boost your immune system. Sex can bring so much to our relationships and our relationships can often be an indicator of how good our sex life is going to be. We cannot address one without the other. Great sex comes from being open to our vulnerability, whilst ensuring our needs are met.


For those of you who are single, it is important to explore the nature of your sexual difficulty and how this relates to past or future relationships. Sex is all around but very rarely discussed in a meaningful and healthy way, that allows you to explore exactly what sex means to you, the type of sex you want and how you are going to get it. Entering into sex therapy or attending one of my workshops (both of which are talking only!) can really help you to make a start.

Get in touch to have a private confidential chat to see how we can help on 07731 555698