Vulval pain cinditions, including vaginismus and vulvodynia

Vaginismus is a condition that leads to the muscles around your vagina tightening, meaning that it is either very painful or impossible for a woman to be penetrated, even if you are aroused and happy to have sex. This condition can be very distressing for both you and your partner.

The tightening of the vagina is involuntary, which means you are not doing this consciously.

However, sex therapy is very effective at addressing vaginismus and it can often be completely eradicated, although treatment can often take a few months.

This condition is usually anxiety-based, although you may not be aware of what you are anxious about. It may be something that has always been there, since you started to become a sexual adult or it may be that it developed after an event, such as childbirth.

Vaginismus is not uncommon but it is rare to hear people talk about it. If you have vaginismus you are not as different as you might think.

For a first-hand account of living with and recovering from vaginismus, read this blog.

Vulvodynia is a condition in which women feel burning pain when their vulva is touched. It is caused by the hypersensitivity of nerve endings in the vulva. It can be painful anywhere in the vulva, including near the clitoris or the entrance to the vagina. It can be difficult for GP's and other health professionals to diagnose, as it cannot be seen. However, trained sex therapists are usually a good source of initial assessment.

Therapy cost: £50 per session

Other therapies

Compulsive sex & porn use

Compulsive sex & porn use

Compulsive sexual behaviours are probably not what you think they are. They are not about having a high sex drive, neither are they a moral failing. They are often not about being stuck in an unhappy relationship. If sex and porn is being used compulsively, it is likely a mechanism to help deal with difficult or uncomfortable feelings

Loss of Sexual Interest

Loss of Sexual Interest

Loss of sexual interest is one of the most common reasons why people seek out sex therapy and despite what we have been led to believe, loss of sexual motivation can affect men just as much as women. A mismatch in a couple’s desire for sex can have a devastating effect on the relationship.

Erectile dysfunction

Erectile dysfunction

Erectile Dysfunction (ED) is one of the most common sexual problems experienced by men of all ages. We only need to look at how popular Viagra and other ED drugs are to know the scale of the problem.

Premature ejaculation

Premature ejaculation

Premature ejaculation isn’t necessarily about a man ejaculating too quickly. A better description would be that he comes before he is ready to. This can mean that he has no sense of control over when he ejaculates. This can sometimes lead to frustration for both him and his partner.

Other sexual problems

Other sexual problems

If you are experiencing sexual problems that are not listed on this site, such as difficulty with orgasm or delayed ejaculation, struggling to figure out what your sexual orientation is or maybe fetish, lack of sexual confidence or anything else, please get in touch to see how we can help you.

Sexual Shame

Sexual Shame

Sexual shame is very common, however, in our culture, this is not something you will hear many people openly discuss. Often our first experiences of sexuality as children are met with shame responses from other children or adults, making us want to hide our sexual selves.