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Compulsive Sex & Porn Use

Compulsive Sex & Porn Use

There’s a lot of talk these days about sex and porn addiction as well as lot of information online, which can be confusing and unfortunately not always accurate.

Compulsive sexual behaviour is probably a better term for what some people are experiencing as there is not enough evidence to suggest that porn or sex can be addictive. However, people who use sex and porn compulsively likely find themselves

  • Repeating sexual behaviour despite having told themselves or others they are going to stop
  • Taking risks with sex or creating difficult consequences for themselves, such as increasing debt, being fired or doing something illegal
  • Becoming increasingly isolated and would rather watch porn than socialise
  • Making excuses to be away from home so they can “act out”
  • Using sex or porn to manage difficult feelings or emotions. However, some people are so used to doing this that they no longer recognise that they feel bad.

Most sex therapists are in the UK who work with compulsive sexual behaviour come from a perspective of what we call sex positive, meaning that we do not judge people for what they are doing sexually. Equally, we do not try to eradicate fetishes or tell you what kind of sex you should be having. Instead, we look at what behaviours are possibly being used as strategies to manage difficult situations and help people to cope better with emotions and feelings. We help people to look at their sexual behaviour and explore what is authentic for that individual and help people to stop the behaviours that are causing them problems.

Not everyone who feels they are addicted to porn or sex will be experiencing compulsive sexual behaviour. However, if you are feeling concerned about what you are doing or your live is being affected in any way, sex therapy will likely help you.

The cost of therapy is £50 per session.

Regularly Asked Questions

What is sex therapy?

Sex therapy is a talking therapy, conducted by a trained therapist. I see people who are struggling with sexual and relationship problems that are either affecting a person’s self esteem, their sexual relationships or stopping them from getting into a relationship. Depending on the problem, the therapy may consist of exercises that I will ask you to do at home or it may be a deeper exploration of childhood and how that has affected you sexually, or a combination of both.

Do I have to have sex in front of someone?

Absolutely not. Psychosexual therapy is a talking therapy only, conducted by trained professionals. It is very similar to all other forms of counselling, the only difference is that the problem being addressed is sexual. Sex therapists are not sex workers, they are trained psychotherapists.

Will it be embarrassing?

We live in a culture that does not encourage people to talk about sex or sexual problems, although there are sexual references in every area of our daily life, including TV and other media. As a culture, we therefore tend to find talking about sex very uncomfortable and embarrassing. I am trained to talk about all aspects of sex and will to do this in a very gentle and caring manner, which really helps people to feel more able to talk about their sexual difficulties. Most people struggle with this when they first go to therapy but find that the embarrassment disappears very quickly.

Is it confidential?

All counselling session are completely confidential and this is something that therapists take very seriously. However, there may be circumstances where adhering to confidentially may not be possible, for example, if you state you are going to harm yourself or others. In most cases I will discuss that they may have to break your confidence if at all possible.

Is sex therapy effective?

Sex therapy is an effective treatment for sexual difficulties. However, it is only effective if you are willing to engage with the therapy.

Will I have to talk about or do something I don’t want to?

As I have described above, therapy may be difficult at first but pretty quickly people start to feel OK. However, there may be times when some of the homework exercises or discussions in the therapy room may move toward things you don’t feel you can address. I am very good at being able to spot when someone is struggling and will be able to help you to overcome this. Sometimes it is important to step slightly outside your comfort zone but you will be doing this with someone who has your best interest at heart and will support you through your personal journey.

If I have a sexual problem, why is it important to address it?

People with sexual problems can often feel depressed, lonely and isolated because of it. It can have a big impact on your relationship and sometimes relationships can end if a sexual problem persists but has been ignored. It may also be that the sexual difficulty is the result of some other underlying cause, such as heart problems or an emotional disturbance, such as anxiety or depression. It is important to not suffer in silence when you have a sexual problem, as most things can be addressed and it may be that you are experiencing another problem that can equally be rectified. As humans, we are all looking for connection and one of the most effective ways to feel connected to people we love is through sex. Sex is an important part of our adult lives and is great for our emotional and physical health. We all deserve a healthy sex life, so do something loving for yourself and make contact today for an informal chat to see how sex therapy could help you.

Who can attend sex therapy?

I will work with anyone over the age of 18. You can be single, in a relationship, polyamours, straight, bi or gay or trans. People of any religion or culture can attend for therapy and personal beliefs will always be taken into consideration. The most important thing is that you relationships and sex life can improve.

Get in touch to have a private confidential chat to see how we can help on 07731 555698